One of the first conversations I have with a new client is about one of the most important goals of our work together. It’s an important chat because it speaks directly to my philosophy as a trainer, and it’ a big part of what will or won’t make me the right trainer and coach for you.
One of the most important goals of the work my clients and I do together doesn’t have anything to do with the body. It has to do with mindset. The goal is shifting away from the mindset that fitness is about what our body looks like and instead focusing on what our body *feels like* and what it can *do*.
This can be a difficult and emotional conversation for some people, and more than one person has decided I’m not the right trainer for them after we’ve had this talk, and that’s okay.
Others have sighed with relief. And a few have started crying because they’d been carrying around the weight of body shame for so long and they were just fucking exhausted.
I don’t think there’s a woman alive who doesn’t understand that exhaustion.
So I humbly invite you to reflect and examine the way you think about exercise and fitness and see if your focus is where you want it to be. Is it aimed at the thoughts that serve you best, that make you stronger? Are you saying things to yourself that you’d never say to a friend? Who would you be without those thoughts?
One of my favorite quotes is, “Your body hears everything your mind says.” I can’t remember who wrote it, or where I heard it first. But that doesn’t stop me from thinking of it and reminding my clients – and myself – to think of it every single day.